80 total
- 0. How do you envision our life together in 5 years?
- 1. What does marriage mean to you?
- 2. How do you want to handle finances as a married couple?
- 3. What are your expectations for how we'll divide household responsibilities?
- 4. Do you want children? If so, how many and when?
- 5. What parenting values are most important to you?
- 6. How do you feel about where we'll live?
- 7. What role will extended family play in our married life?
- 8. How do you want to handle holidays and family gatherings?
- 9. What are your career goals and how do they fit with our life together?
- 10. What's your approach to saving and spending money?
- 11. How do you feel about debt, and what's our plan for managing it?
- 12. What are your deal-breakers in a marriage?
- 13. How do you want to handle disagreements and conflicts?
- 14. What's your communication style when you're upset?
- 15. How important is alone time to you?
- 16. What role does faith or spirituality play in your life?
- 17. How do you feel about maintaining friendships outside our marriage?
- 18. What are your expectations around physical intimacy?
- 19. How do you want to keep our relationship strong over time?
- 20. What's your biggest fear about marriage?
- 21. What lessons from your parents' relationship do you want to bring into ours?
- 22. What lessons do you want to avoid?
- 23. How do you define loyalty in a marriage?
- 24. What would you do if one of us needed to relocate for work?
- 25. How do you feel about prenuptial agreements?
- 26. What are your thoughts on joint vs. separate bank accounts?
- 27. How will we make major decisions together?
- 28. What does a healthy work-life balance look like to you?
- 29. How do you want to handle it if we disagree about something major?
- 30. What traditions do you want to create as a married couple?
- 31. How important is date night after marriage?
- 32. What's your ideal living situation?
- 33. How do you feel about pets?
- 34. What are your thoughts on supporting each other's hobbies?
- 35. How will we handle it if one of us makes significantly more money?
- 36. What does 'being there' for each other mean to you?
- 37. How do you want to handle stress together?
- 38. What's your approach to health and wellness as a couple?
- 39. How do you feel about sharing passwords and privacy?
- 40. What boundaries do you want to set with family and friends?
- 41. How do you want to celebrate milestones and anniversaries?
- 42. What does emotional support look like to you?
- 43. How do you feel about therapy or counseling if we need it?
- 44. What's your vision for retirement?
- 45. How do you want to handle unexpected life changes?
- 46. What's your love language, and how can I show love in that way?
- 47. What makes you feel secure in our relationship?
- 48. What are you most excited about for our marriage?
- 49. What's one promise you want us to make to each other?
- 50. What's one thing I could do to make you feel more loved?
- 51. How can I better support you when you're stressed?
- 52. What's something I do that you'd like me to do more often?
- 53. What's a small change that would improve our daily life together?
- 54. How do you feel about the way we handle disagreements?
- 55. What's something we used to do that you miss?
- 56. What would make our communication even better?
- 57. What's an area where you'd like us to grow together?
- 58. How can I show you more appreciation?
- 59. What's something you need from me that you haven't asked for?
- 60. What's one thing I could stop doing that would help us?
- 61. How do you feel most connected to me?
- 62. What's a way I could be more present with you?
- 63. What does quality time look like to you?
- 64. How can we make more time for each other?
- 65. What's something you'd like us to experience together?
- 66. How do you feel about our work-life balance as a couple?
- 67. What's a habit we could build together?
- 68. What makes you feel secure in our relationship?
- 69. How do you feel about the amount of affection in our relationship?
- 70. What's something you'd like to improve about yourself, and how can I help?
- 71. What's a goal we should work toward together?
- 72. How can we better celebrate each other's wins?
- 73. What's something I've done recently that made you feel loved?
- 74. What's a way we can handle stress together better?
- 75. What does emotional support look like to you?
- 76. How do you feel about how we make decisions together?
- 77. What's something you'd like more help with?
- 78. What's a conversation we should have but keep putting off?
- 79. How can we keep the spark alive in our relationship?
When should we have these conversations?
Ideally before getting engaged, but anytime works. It's never too early (or too late) to align on the big stuff.
What if we disagree on something important?
That's actually valuable. Disagreements before marriage are easier to work through than surprises after. Consider it a gift.