Quick Answer
Weekly relationship check-ins prevent small issues from becoming big fights. The best questions cover: how you're both feeling about the relationship, what's working well, what could be better, upcoming stressors, appreciation for each other, and goals for the week ahead. Schedule 15-30 minutes weekly, take turns asking, and listen without defensiveness.
The couples who stay happy aren't the ones without problems. They're the ones who address problems early — before resentment builds and small frustrations become major conflicts.
A weekly relationship check-in is like preventive maintenance for your partnership. It takes 15-30 minutes and can save you hours of fighting later.
How to Do a Weekly Check-In
Pick a consistent time — Sunday morning, Friday evening, whatever works. Make it a ritual, not an interrogation. Keep it light but honest.
Take turns asking and answering. Listen without interrupting. The goal isn't to fix everything immediately — it's to stay aware of where you both are.
20 Check-In Questions
Temperature Check
- On a scale of 1-10, how are you feeling about us this week?
- What's been on your mind about our relationship lately?
- Is there anything you've been hesitant to bring up?
- How connected have you felt to me this week?
What's Working
- What's something I did this week that made you feel loved?
- What moment from this week do you want to remember?
- What are you grateful for about us right now?
- What's something we're doing well as a team?
What Could Be Better
- Is there anything I could do differently to support you?
- What's one thing you wish we did more of together?
- Is there a pattern we've fallen into that you'd like to change?
- What's something small that's been bothering you?
Looking Ahead
- What's stressing you out about the week ahead?
- How can I help you this coming week?
- Is there anything you're looking forward to together?
- What's one goal you have for us this week?
Deeper Dives
- How are you feeling about our intimacy lately?
- Is there something you need more of from me emotionally?
- What's a dream or goal you'd like us to work toward?
- Is there anything you need to forgive or let go of?
Pro tip: You don't need to ask all 20 questions every week. Pick 3-5 that feel relevant. Apps like Amora can provide daily questions that make these weekly check-ins feel more natural.
Making Check-Ins Work
- Keep it consistent — same time, same place when possible
- Stay curious, not defensive — you're learning, not arguing
- Take notes if helpful — sometimes patterns only emerge over time
- End with appreciation — always close on a positive note
Frequently Asked Questions
How long should a relationship check-in be?
15-30 minutes is ideal. Long enough to have a real conversation, short enough to do consistently. If major issues come up, you can schedule a longer discussion later.
What if my partner doesn't want to do check-ins?
Start small with just one question. Make it feel like a conversation, not an interview. If they see that it leads to feeling more connected (not more fights), they'll likely become more open to it.
What if the check-in turns into a fight?
That's a sign you're addressing something important. Stay calm, focus on 'I feel' statements, and remember you're on the same team. If it gets heated, take a break and return to it later.
Check in daily, not just weekly
Amora sends you both a question every day — making weekly check-ins easier because you're already in the habit of sharing honestly.