What is a ritual (and why it works)
A couple ritual isn't something perfect or grand. It's a small action you repeat with intention. The key is that it's easy, and that it feels like 'yours'.
Rituals reduce friction: you don't need to get inspired every day, just follow a habit you've already decided on together.
15 simple daily rituals
Here are ideas that work well because they don't require much time or money. Pick 1-2 and try them for a week.
- One daily question (each person answers first, then discuss)
- A 20-second voice note: 'Today I'm feeling...'
- A 3-word check-in: energy, emotion, need
- A photo of the most real moment of your day (no posing)
- A mini 10-minute date (coffee, walk, ice cream)
- A daily 'thank you for...'
- A long hug before bed (30 seconds)
- A shared list: things we want to do together
- A caring gesture: water, snack, reminder
- A meme or clip that says 'this is us'
- A 'what do you need from me today?'
- An intention for tomorrow
- A 'micro recap' of the day (the best, the hardest, what you learned)
- Review an important date once a week
- An explicit 'I choose you' (no drama, no speech)
How to keep it going without it feeling like an obligation
Golden rule: keep it small. If the ritual is big, it dies. If it's small, it becomes natural.
And if you miss a day, don't punish yourselves. Just come back to it the next day.
Frequently Asked Questions
What ritual works best for busy couples?
One that takes less than 5 minutes. A daily question or a short voice note is usually the most sustainable.
Does this replace couples therapy?
No. These are connection habits. If you need professional help, seeking support is a good idea.
Want an easy ritual? Try Amora
Amora sends a daily question at 9 AM (local time). Each person answers first, then you see each other's responses. Private to just the two of you.