Why the spark fades (and why that's normal)
The 'spark' isn't magic — it's novelty, attention, and anticipation. Early relationships have this naturally. Long-term relationships need to create it intentionally.
The fade isn't a failure. It's just biology. The good news: you can rebuild it without pretending to be someone you're not.
15 simple ways to reconnect
- Try something new together (even a new restaurant counts)
- Flirt like you're still dating (a random compliment, a lingering look)
- Create anticipation: plan something to look forward to
- Touch more without it leading anywhere (hand on back, random hugs)
- Put phones away for one hour a day
- Ask questions you've never asked before
- Surprise them with something small and thoughtful
- Revisit your origin story (where you met, first date, first 'I love you')
- Have a 'no logistics' rule during dinner
- Send a random 'thinking of you' text mid-day
- Share something vulnerable you haven't shared before
- Do something they love (even if it's not your thing)
- Dress up for each other at home
- Create a shared playlist that reminds you of your relationship
- Schedule intimacy if spontaneity isn't happening
The mindset shift
Stop waiting for the spark to return. Start acting like it's already there. Attention creates attraction.
The couples who 'still have it' aren't lucky — they're intentional. They prioritize the relationship like it matters. Because it does.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it normal for the spark to fade?
Yes. Every long-term couple experiences this. The difference is whether you accept it passively or work to rebuild it.
How long does it take to get the spark back?
You can feel a shift within days if both partners commit to small, consistent actions. It's not about one big gesture.
Amora helps you stay curious
A daily question keeps you discovering new things about each other — even after years together. Small habit, big impact.