Why communication breaks down
Most couples don't have a communication 'problem' — they have a communication 'gap'. You're both busy, tired, and the easy stuff fills the space.
The fix isn't talking more. It's talking better, with intention.
10 daily habits for better communication
- Put phones away during meals (even for 15 minutes)
- Ask 'how are you really doing?' — and wait for the real answer
- Share one highlight and one hard thing from your day
- Say what you need instead of hoping they'll guess
- Listen without planning your response
- Take a pause before reacting when you're frustrated
- Use 'I feel...' instead of 'You always...'
- Check in before bed: anything left unsaid?
- Schedule a weekly 'state of us' conversation (15 min)
- Ask questions that go beyond logistics
Questions to start better conversations
Sometimes all you need is a good question to break the pattern. Try one of these tonight:
- What's something I do that makes you feel loved?
- What's been on your mind that you haven't shared?
- What's one thing we could do differently this week?
- When do you feel most connected to me?
Frequently Asked Questions
How often should couples have serious conversations?
Quality over quantity. One 15-minute intentional talk per week beats daily surface-level chats.
What if my partner doesn't want to talk?
Start small. Don't force it. Sometimes a simple daily question breaks the ice better than a 'we need to talk.'
Amora makes it easy to start
One question every day at 9 AM. You both answer first, then see each other's responses. It's a simple way to talk about what matters.